My finest buddy of 25 years began ghosting me out of nowhere


DEAR ABBY,I’m a single man with a detailed girlfriend who can also be single. We stay about half an hour aside, so most of our communication over the past 25 years has been over the cellphone. We talked nearly day by day.

Two years in the past I observed he stopped calling me till he was going to get collectively. Then I observed that after I referred to as him, he would depart it on voicemail and never return my name for days. A couple of 12 months in the past he stopped returning my voicemails altogether. I attempted to drastically scale back my calls however no cube. I additionally tried switching to texts however he does not reply to them both.

You would possibly assume she’s mates with me, however she’s not. We nonetheless get collectively typically for dinner or a film, normally at his suggestion through e-mail. However not returning, and even answering, my calls or texts certain feels improper. I’ve tried to ask him about it, however he cuts me off saying he “did not choose up the cellphone”. Or he is “dangerous at checking voicemails and texts.”

His newest excuse is that he is “simply not good on the cellphone.” Abby, I do know cellphone etiquette has modified and younger individuals not often use the cellphone as of late. However we’re in our 60s and for 25 years our relationship was largely over the cellphone. It is one factor you need to minimize it again, and even cease calling me. However ignoring my (now rare) calls or texts feels insulting. Is that this regular and will I nonetheless think about an individual like this one in all my closest mates? — GHOSTED IN THE WEST

DEAR GHOST!A sudden sample change isn’t regular. One thing has modified. Since you may’t get him to elucidate what brought about this transformation in his habits, think about taking a web page out of his playbook. Talk with him by e-mail solely in response to his emails to you, and discover another mates who will deal with you politely.

DEAR ABBY,I’m a widow and miss my husband very a lot. We regularly had dinner collectively. I’ve mates I’ve dinner with, however typically I’m going out alone. Each time I say I am eating alone, the host or hostess asks, It is like an insult. I would like a reminder that I’m alone with out a husband.

I not too long ago advised this to a buddy who advised me he feels the identical method when he dines alone. He additionally considers it offensive. Please share this with readers who work within the hospitality business. – ARE YOU RIGHT IN COLORADO?

DEAR ONLY YOUI’m printing your letter, however I believe it’s possible you’ll be responding to a query that could be extra about process than social commentary. Your host or server might ask that query as a result of they need to know if extra place settings ought to be faraway from the desk.

DEAR READERS!As I mirror on the previous 12 months, I additionally need to want you a contented, wholesome 2023. Did it go as rapidly for you because it did for me? I will be a part of you tonight to “toast” a brand new 12 months that I hope shall be a much less hectic one for all of us. In case you’re celebrating tonight, please take measures to guard not solely your well being, however the security of others. Blissful New Yr, everybody! – LOVE, ABBY

Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at: or PO Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.


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